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Failure is When You Allow Someone Else to Define Your Success!

Congratulations Kendra on your success! Super Proud of You! Pictured above.

Failure is When You Allow Someone Else to Define Your Success!

I have shaken hands with the Secretary of the Labor, The Secretary of the Treasury, the Directors of the SBA and so many more high-ranking officials in my life while accepting awards for supposed successes I earned in the businesses I have run. I also stepped on many podiums to be awarded the national rankings I earned during my NASKA & USKA fighting days after winning so many bouts in my career. I have been highlighted in many national and local magazines for achieving levels of success that others thought commendable and should be highlighted. All of these, although I am very much appreciative, collect dust, get lost in the history books and at the end of the day don’t really matter much to me. Please don’t take this statement as ungrateful or pompous. Allow me flexibility in making my point.

My proudest accomplishment in life has nothing to do with the businesses I have run or currently run. They have nothing to do with cash value or objects I have collected/lost in my life. They have nothing to do with the fights I have won. The most endearing success for which I am most proud, is when I was able to care for my father until his last breath. I am most proud that I am able to care for my mom and my family the way I have over the last few years. I am proud of seeing my team not only succeed but grow during the trying last few years at eVOLV!

I probably will never be awarded for the care I have provided my family or my team, but in my heart, I know this has been my greatest success. I find it funny when people actually find out that I am an Alumni of the Harvard Graduate School of Business and numerous other titles/degrees. They ask why I never preface my title when meeting them as I always introduce my profession as being a “trainer.” You can actually tell a lot about a person when you introduce yourself with modesty. They show truer colors.

This is why I stopped chasing awards, titles, degrees, materialistic stuff a long time ago. All that really doesn’t matter in my life anymore. It never brought happiness or fulfillment. It only brought a sense of needing more to please more to buy more to… You get my drift.

Today I find true success internally when I can cause positive change in my clients lives on a daily basis, all the while caring for my family and my team by doing so. I don’t need to allow anyone else’s definition of success be the determining factor of my actions or direction. This is the true definition of success to me.

I see a lot of individuals coming to eVOLV wanting a perfect six pack of abs, or a huge booty like the Kardashians, or to be like this person or that person on Instagram. STOP STOP STOP! It’s time for you to just be the best version of you! A six pack of abs causes you to lose out on a happy Friday night drinking a cool beer with your hot date! A Kardashian butt will cost you tens of thousands of dollars and while you age you will look really weird. Those Instagram folks, although some of them are real, most are fake as a 3-dollar bill! Find your happiness and find your definition of success.

Yes, we have a fitness show that does get individuals to an unsustainable body type. We do it because it allows for a milestone that most will never achieve without a competitive nature behind their reason. We do it as healthy and supportive as we can be but at the end of the day, we know it is unstainable. We also know that once they have finished this gauntlet that the pride, they will feel forever is determinant of success for them individually.

We are all different and we all have intrinsic motivators for our successes. Don’t allow outside judgement to deter you from that which is truly important to you!

Today actions:

1. Brainstorm on your definition of success. Ask yourself is it truly yours or is someone else’s interpretation that you are trying to make your own?

2. If it is someone else’s, ask yourself if it is in your best interest to strive for those successes or is it just driving you nuts?

3. Then dive deep and find what success truly means to you – not titles, not trophies, not awards – the real stuff that brings true happiness to your life!

4. Then take the actions necessary to move towards those and get rid of those that you don’t need.

eVOLV is community of people who are united in improving ourselves through fitness. For our current clients, they understand the value. For those reading this blog and are not current clients, I invite you to try us out. It may just be the group you need in order to help define and achieve your success story!

Speaking of success stories, what does sunrise yoga every morning for 5-days on the beach sound like to you? That would be an amazing chapter in your success story, right? I would love for you to join myself and 10 other eVOLV trainers at this year’s eVOLV Fitness Destination in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico! More information here:

Your Trainer – C.J.

I invite you to check out our eVOLV Strong with C.J. Podcasts Tuesdays and Thursdays in order to keep wellness front and center of your thoughts. The only charge is to subscribe, rate, and share! More information below.

Our schedule of wellness is as follows:

Monday – eVOLV’s Newsletter covering “Healthy Habits” & recipes.

Tuesday – eVOLV with C.J. Podcast & a Positive Member Highlight

Wednesday – C.J.’s Wellness Blog (the one you’re reading today)

Thursday – eVOLV with C.J. Podcast

Friday – eVOLV’s Newsletter giving you a weekend healthy recipe!

These pieces are meant to help remind you that your health is critical in this thing called life! These tidbits of information are here to help inspire you to make the right decisions during your day. Use them! Share them! Subscribe to them!

Speaking of being inspired, the 2022 Rise of the Phoenix Fitness Show and Extravaganza is right around the corner! I invite you to come and help celebrate the successes of this year’s participants April 23, 2022, at the Crowne Plaza Albuquerque on University and Menaul with doors opening at 6 pm MST. Here is a link to purchase this year’s tickets (THEY ARE SELLING OUT SO DO IT NOW):

I’ll see you again tomorrow on eVOLV Strong with C.J. Podcast!

Start Strong, Stay Strong & Always Be eVOLV and UpMo Strong!

Your Trainer – C.J.

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